TerminX, on 02 July 2020 - 11:03 AM, said:
I'm bothered by some of the opinions expressed in that thread, yes, but not bothered that people are given the ability to express them.
I was gonna say something to this, but just about everything I wanted to say was summed up in Musically's post. Still, I want to mention that this is the very same reason I am an active member here and not much really anywhere else. Indeed, even the main initial topic of this thread, Doomworld, is one of the worst places I think I've ever seen in this regard. I lurked in the Doomworld forums and its affiliates for a long time, only ever making a single account on a single forum just for specific questions. And even then I felt like I was walking on eggshells at all times. Everyone is constantly on edge about everything, and I've seen people get up in arms for less over there.
MusicallyInspired, on 02 July 2020 - 08:13 PM, said:
I don't share a lot in common with everyone here, but I appreciate everyone hashing things out over shutting the door on discussion and writing people off. People here will talk to you as long as you have points and arguments to raise and debate. They won't just stop and conversations can go on for weeks due to this. I commend and appreciate this. It's better than being treated less than a person.
This brings me to this part of the post, which I want to sit on for a bit.
I cannot state how much I absolutely despise people who post something, and then run away from any repercussions. I think it's one of the most cowardly actions someone can do. Especially when not only do they run away, but start laughing at those who try to counter it.
I call these people "shit-bombers" and they absolutely sicken me. I realize it doesn't seem worth that much disdain, but I am a firm believer in the concept of "put up or shut up." I even extend that philosophy to much more benign conversations. You all of course know the phrase "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all?" I do
not believe in that. However, I
do believe in "if you don't have anything to say, don't say anything at all." Take note of the omitted word.
This is why I had such an issue with johnny. Not necessarily because of the opinions themselves, but because of his tendency to edit his posts with a buried, half-assed response, in order to give himself some vague sensation of having the last word. I, quite frankly, find this sort of thing disgusting. That belief was also the same reason I continued to engage with him; to try and argue and debate and reason with him.
So why am I bringing this old wound up? Because no matter how much I might disagree with certain posts, or even certain members who tend to post nothing but stuff I disagree with, I can at least respect pretty much every member on this forum (or at least the active posters). And I can respect them because, as Musically said, everyone is willing to fight it out. Nobody here says anything they're not willing to fight over.
Now this differs from Doomworld and pretty much everywhere else, where fights aren't allowed to happen, and are more or less instantly shut down through mod intervention. You are only allowed to have "approved opinions." The shutting down of these debates, or worse, the banning of members who express non-state approved opinions, I see in the exact same league as shit-bombers, with the sole difference being they have power and they're willing to use it to censor opinions they don't like. Those people tend to not only allow certain opinions to be expressed, but some go as far as to allow more radical or extreme versions of those opinions (calls for violence, etc), while hypocritically censoring more reasoned and measured opinions for being "inciting hate."
I may not have been posting here on duke4 for longer than a couple of years, but I have been lurking for about two or three more years on top of that. Even when I wasn't posting, I've seen members come and go, I've seen big flamewars erupt, I've seen a lot.
But in that time, I've almost never seen someone say something they're not willing to defend. No matter how much I may disagree with them, I
have to respect them for that. So long as threats of violence and doxxing and that sort of stuff are rightfully disposed of, I not only don't see a problem with seeing opinions I don't like, but I even encourage such things. We can't change or evolve as people if we can't handle seeing something we don't like. If we aren't willing to fight to defend our
own position against someone expressing the opposing view.
Even right now as I post, we are watching members battle it out over several topics of debate. It's very heated, yes, and expecting these sorts of things to not get heated is perhaps a bit naive. But as TX said, it's better that these sorts of things be allowed to be expressed than to forcibly cap them.
This philosophy of mine also extends inward, of course. If I
don't feel like I can defend my position easily, or simply don't feel like battling someone on their point, then I simply do not speak at all. I do see that as respectable, and decidedly different from shit-bombing. After all, I'm not saying anything. Likewise, I see no issue with "bottoming-out" of a debate because you've either grown exhausted of it or are at the end of what you think you can accomplish. The key difference, I think, is allowing your opponent to have the last word. Without fighting just to save face on that alone and letting it die, I see that as fair. You still don't agree but you can't or won't fight anymore, but are willing to concede your opponent to have their last word. Letting them win the battle without winning the war, so to speak.
I of course understand there is still some lingering controversy regarding the outhouse and the movement of topics to it, but that's a debate for a different time. I will state that I am firmly on the fence on the issue, seeing both sides of it and as such am unable to decide for myself which is the "right" option. But again, that's neither here nor there. I think there might be merit to having a big community/forum-wide discussion of the issue at some point in the future, but I digress.
On the note of "letting them win the battle without winning the war," I suppose I'll throw in my two cents regarding the very original topic of that doomworld post. I will admit upfront that I hold very anti-censorship beliefs as a result of my philosophy. But said philosophy I think can also explain my viewpoint.
Simply put, a lot of people seem to think that hosting that sort of content explicitly means you not only agree with it, but that you expect everyone else to agree to whatever political beliefs you assign to it. In this case, that hosting the offending wad means Doomworld is okay with rape murder and whatever buzzwords they throw around, and that hosting it means every member must then also be okay with those things. Things these days are so tribalized and echo-chambery that the mere concept of existing in a community
without a collective, all-encompassing opinion seems downright alien to most people.
The idea of being willing to defend your position goes both ways, I think. That is to say, you can say whatever and defend it, but those who challenge you
also have the right to defend their opinion. In practice, I think simply letting the cards fall where they may is the best option. For this offensive wad, all that needs to be done is to either just not play it, or to post your opinions about it and move on. There is no need to throw a hissy fit because it simply
exists and comdemn
everything associated with it, no matter how remotely.
Regarding some of the things actually said in that thread, this method will inevitably mean
someone will have to run into it and report on it. I am against the idea of the creator putting down "trigger warnings," because A.) they are incredibly misleading about the actual content of the work, since they are "ideally" supposed to list everything that could trigger someone, no matter how large or miniscule the topic is involved (an off-handed mention of a backstory by a character, for instance), and B.) there is no way in hell to determine what will or won't trigger someone,
especially in this day and age.
Someone's gonna have to bite the bullet and potentially face things they don't like but... to be frank? Tough shit. You aren't born with the right to not be offended, nor was or can it ever be granted by a piece of paper or a legislator. Every day you wake up you risk seeing something that offends you, but that's the price of getting out of bed in the morning. If you can't handle that, then you need to seek legitimate help because the world is not going to bend over backwards to cater to your desires. To expect as such is not only naive, it is impossible through the laws of our own reality. Even if humanity turned into a hivemind that suited exactly your opinions and worldviews, some unfortunate event within daily life itself will hurt you. Hell, death is inevitable. Everyone is going die, that's going to hurt their friends and surviving family, and frankly that's one of the most offensive things ever.
But it's still happening. Nothing can change that, not any economic, social, or legal policy. And humanity isn't a hivemind anyway, so good luck trying to never be offended ever.
Of course, the common defense is "it's their website and they can do what they want," to which... I agree with it in
spirit, but not in practice. In spirit, yes, your site, do what you want. But if you're creating a place for people to talk and make stuff on, and dictating what can and can't be done there even if it is (immediately) harmless... well, it's not exactly a stretch to say that pretty much every other place available is enforcing the same pro-hiveminded policies. At which point the question
must be asked, "where should it be posted?"
You can say "it's not my problem," but you are
technically creating this problem. (especially for those who
do find a place willing to host such content, at which point the twitter warrirors will swarm and comdemn it and harass everyone associated). Is it not
better to have it released onto a place where it has a chance to be ignored or challenged? Rather than bottled up inside the poster until something unfortunate happens, or they manage to find an echo-chamber where its ideals will be only reinforced?
Trash will be trash, but if it's released and found that most of the community hates it and warns everyone else to not play it...then shockingly, most people won't play it. Some will out of morbid curiosity, but it's better than the alternative.
To bring it all back home, I want to add a personal note. As rough-and-tumble as this place can appear, I think it's a fair price to pay for what we get in return. Forums are dying out, and the few that still exist are rapidly turning into mini-clones of ResetEra. I have spent years on forums, calling some of them essentially my "home" (insofar as the term can be applied to internet communities). And I have felt more comfortable here than anywhere else. This place and its members can be harsh at times, but never do I have to worry about accidentally pissing someone off. Because even if I do, this place allows us to hash it out. We are free to say pretty much anything we want so long as it isn't illegal. Sure, there tends to be a fair number of conflicts, but realistically? I think this is the best we can get in this life. Because people will naturally have different opinions, open debate and arguments are downright
necessary. I may not be incredibly confrontational over here, but I'm happy to exist in a place where confrontation is practically encouraged. To be in a place where the only price of speech is to be speech'd right back. Even if I adopted this same non-confrontational standpoint at Doomworld, and would probably only rarely run into conflict with someone... I prefer to keep my head down because I
choose to, not because I
have to, because I enjoy having the freedom to choose to raise my head back up as well; to say something I think is worth saying.
And to be honest, even in a quote-unquote "perfect world," I don't think I would have this place be any other way. If nothing else, this place is a great way to rapidly learn how to roll with the punches life can throw at you. For what little it is worth to anyone else, I've considered duke4 my new home on the internet for some time, now.
There, I've said my piece. Now enough with my sappy shit let's get back to the inferno. I've got marshmallows to go around!