Cartaphallus, on 09 September 2020 - 11:08 PM, said:
Agree that the thread shouldn't be locked, but disagree with the "authoritative moderating is what women do", simply because, well... men do it also. Social competition still happens on Doomworld, but there are constraints. Call them rules. 4chan has little to no rules.
Humans are composed of masculinity and femininity in varying amounts. 4chan does have rules, but they are socially distributed not from an "above" (except for illegal materials like pizza or whatever.)
Cartaphallus, on 09 September 2020 - 11:08 PM, said:
A Mean Girls style of moderating would probably consist of some subtle form of manipulation, things women resort to because traditionally they didn't wield overt power. I've been in communities run by women and they rarely kicked anybody out. They tried to solve everything with diplomacy, almost to a fault. Now look at what happens when men with firm & unwavering ideals do once they get some power... they abuse the shit out of it. Your Hitler's and Stalin's, etc. It's establishing social order through brute force, a typically male tactic.
Hitler and Stalin were fops.
Danukem, on 10 September 2020 - 02:42 AM, said:
If you put aside gender for a minute, Jimmy's claim is interesting and explains a lot about his attitude towards forum moderation. He's saying that left without intervention, forum members will naturally compete socially and a hierarchy or "social order" will form. So out of anarchy comes a pecking order. Based on what, though? Presumably, on what the community members tend to value in each other (speedrunning example). But (again, this is Jimmy's analysis, not mine) if moderators cut off debates/fights then this disrupts social competition and prevents a proper social order from forming.
It also leaves ideas, arguments, etc
unresolved which foments destructive social disorder. We have seen this here. Topics get locked or deleted and inevitably that wound festers and pops back open months later. You can set your clocks and place bets.
This attitude in moderation actually began it's life here (before things changed so much) and cemented itself in Bohab Central (GWAR fansite) where I was a moderator. When it was a forum we never banned anyone (except legit spammers and we never used spam as a mental gymnastics excuse to ban legitimate people.) Mods only ever did things to antagonize posters that weren't liked. Change their names, avatars, signatures, or even entire posts. If it was decided by the community that they didn't like someone they would be belittled mercilessly until they decided to leave on their own.
Cartaphallus, on 10 September 2020 - 03:11 AM, said:
Yeah, mom will say, "Boys, stop fighting!", but when they don't, it's dad who has to put his foot down.
Because he is at the top of the social order. Mothers who end up at the top of the social order usually end up with unhappy broken men, abused children, and unhappy, mean unfulfilled women.
Cartaphallus, on 10 September 2020 - 03:11 AM, said:
The pecking order thing, well, who is to say what's proper? Maybe the owners of the website want discussions to be limited to certain topics, maybe they don't. Doomworld is a much bigger site than Duke4 and most members seem happy with it.
Pecking orders will always be established regardless of any person or group's interference. They can be manipulated but they cannot be avoided.
The Overman, on 10 September 2020 - 05:14 AM, said:
Is sexist as it implies that all women fit under your statement.
This is also a broad overreaching sexist statement.
I am sexist. I
love women because they are different from men. I treat them differently, and not because I think they are less than. I open/hold doors, give wifey and close friends thoughtful gifts and letters, do "man jobs" for them around the house and yard, make sure to compliment their appearance/personality every so often, have one-on-one "feelings" conversations with them, etc etc because these things are more important to them than they will ever tell you openly. Buy a woman in your life some nice flowers, a vase, arrange them yourself and give it to them and see how they light up. (Don't do it to a random woman you don't know you fucking neckbeard.) Do that to a man and he's gonna call you a [REDACTED] and laugh at you.
The Overman, on 10 September 2020 - 05:14 AM, said:
4chan and 8kun allow echo rooms for hatred
and if such echo rooms are left unchecked
there may be real life consequences
More likely than not these "echo rooms" have prevented more tragedies than they have caused. I've seen some people really get the help they needed from places like this because they were able to vent and get these feelings out of themselves in a more constructive way. Anonymity can make it easier for some people to pull their guts out, which we all have to do at some point in our lives or we'll absolutely go bonkers. The pain that men experience these days can be brutal and is often completely disregarded, with no clear path to recovery. Men successfully commit suicide the most for a reason. It is a solution, although not a great one. But it's easy.
Forge, on 10 September 2020 - 05:16 AM, said:
I was part of a mostly female admin team on a Sims 1 web forum.
Jesus Christ.
The Overman, on 10 September 2020 - 05:35 AM, said:
I mean I'll get titties later
but right now I'm still relying on testosterone.
Same as you.
You could actually have an imbalance of female hormones.
Forge, on 10 September 2020 - 06:05 AM, said:
also behavioral "science" is never exact, but there are patterns
Guys who don't understand the differences between men and women expose their insular lifestyles. They don't have a group of men in their life (and if they do, they are not
older men) or much experience with women. This breeds an imbalance in their Divine Femininity and makes them say things like "Not all women are X" while completely missing the point. The ability to generalize groups and situations is the greatest survival tactic man ever evolved into having, "trusting your gut" can save your life a million times over. Pretty much all women understand the differences between men and women and if you don't think they're using it to their full advantage all the time, you've been duped. They typically have the most social power, because men seek to protect them on an instinctual level. This instinct has largely been misappropriated in the first world because it is so safe, the things women "have to be" "protected" "from" are largely shadows on the wall compared to the third world.