[Robman]

he's probably just trying to balance the equation after the dirty sanchez he gave her the other night, ok I'll stop.

pyle driver spin kick inverted reach around switchback knuckle buster how's your mother peek a boo diamond crusted finisher.

[Person of Color]

Forge, on 01 January 2015 - 09:57 PM, said:

(as long as the feelings you have for her are reciprocated)

That's the thing. We're on the same page here Forge.

And I'm not biased against gamer chicks. I just hate how sheltered and closed minded they are.

>Adventurous Extravert
>Gamer
>Bipolar
>Highly diminished sense of fear

I'm pretty fucked, honestly. #needtoorderanafricanqtbrideandforcehertoplaysegaclockworkorangestyle #edgyaf

[Hendricks266]

I've made gifts along somewhat similar lines. I'll look though them to see if there is anything I feel like sharing.

[Micky C]

I was under the impression she was already in a relationship with this girl. He hasn't said otherwise so maybe you guys have jumped the gun a bit.

If this is an attempt at asking her out for the first time then like others have said I'd be hesitant to do it, as it does give the impression of trying a bit hard. Girls like it when you like them, but generally don't like it when you're obsessed with them (before asking them out).
HOWEVER if he's been seeing her for at least a few weeks (I'd say at least one and a half months), then IMO she'd see it as a cute and meaningful gesture, which is a good thing. I'd still have other gifts up your sleeve, or at least given her gifts prior to this one, since you don't want her to think you're all about the games (whether it's true or not).

I'm hardly a stud when it comes to women though. My kill/death ratio in asking them out is about 1:2, and I can count the number of girls I've asked out on 2 hands.

I did write an excel macro for this girl I'd been seeing for a while. When she presses the start button it fills up 10000 cells with the phrase "I love you", which she really enjoyed
Plus you'd be surprised how many relationship arguments I can win with mathematics.

[Robman]

8=D + (Pi)

[Hendricks266]

Micky C, on 01 January 2015 - 10:19 PM, said:

I did write an excel macro for this girl I'd been seeing for a while. When she presses the start button it fills up 10000 cells with the phrase "I love you", which she really enjoyed

[Hendricks266]

Hendricks266, on 01 January 2015 - 10:18 PM, said:

I've made gifts along somewhat similar lines. I'll look though them to see if there is anything I feel like sharing.

I remembered that similar circumstances sparked my original interest in photography.

http://forums.duke4....ography-thread/

[Hendricks266]

I made this pretty cool vector of a red-winged blackbird as part of a project.

[Kathy]

Micky C, on 01 January 2015 - 10:19 PM, said:

I was under the impression she was already in a relationship with this girl. He hasn't said otherwise so maybe you guys have jumped the gun a bit.

I assumed that much. The text was perfect, I think. And, quite frankly, he didn't ask for our advice on the matter.

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I can count the number of girls I've asked out on 2 hands.

Did you do that on purpose? (although, 2 hands isn't bragging per se)

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Plus you'd be surprised how many relationship arguments I can win with mathematics.

For example?

[Micky C]

Hendricks266, on 01 January 2015 - 10:53 PM, said:

http://www.youtube.c...h?v=c_GFzFqyaRc

Nerds don't get what I got afterwards a gentleman never tells

Kathy, on 01 January 2015 - 11:57 PM, said:

I assumed that much. The text was perfect, I think. And, quite frankly, he didn't ask for our advice on the matter.


Did you do that on purpose? (although, 2 hands isn't bragging per se)

http://www.youtube.c...h?v=1EsX0Y5TRS8


For example?

Yeah that's the point, I'm saying I don't have megaexperience with women. My exposure isn't that great either since I'm an engineering student (guess the implication) and I'm an introvert.

Example: The name escapes me at the moment, but you know the mathematical function where the curve rises up quickly, then starts to fall gradually? My gf and I were having some issues near the start of the relationship, so I drew the curve and explained that sure we're going to have lots of problems in a short time frame relatively speaking, as we get to know each other more, as indicated by the first portion of the curve, but after a certain point the problems will start to reduce in intensity, which made her more optimistic for the future. Obviously it's not the most accurate mathematical problem but she stopped being upset which was the main point

[Kathy]

That's a terrible example. Using the same logic she could have drawn a sine wave or described your function as Love(Y) over Time(X).

[Micky C]

I neglected context and details, without which you can't really judge the success or use of what I did. As I said things improved after that.

[Mblackwell]

Relationships get WAY more difficult over time. In the beginning you neglect issues because whatever you're in love! But then real shit happens like you get sick, or laid off, in accidents, you have kids, your sex life tanks due to said kids, money is on short hand, the appliances break, your work schedule conflicts with family time, doubts and fears creep in due to general "lack of excitement" (due to increased familiarity, not actually any differences), relatives die and you need to take sudden cross country trips, etc.

[Robman]

the TEST of time.

[MrBlackCat]

Mblackwell, on 02 January 2015 - 12:21 PM, said:

Relationships get WAY more difficult over time. In the beginning you neglect issues because whatever you're in love! But then real shit happens like you get sick, or laid off, in accidents, you have kids, your sex life tanks due to said kids, money is on short hand, the appliances break, your work schedule conflicts with family time, doubts and fears creep in due to general "lack of excitement" (due to increased familiarity, not actually any differences), relatives die and you need to take sudden cross country trips, etc.

D:
WOW! Ok... so what might be the ratio of Sarcasm to Realism here? (at least relative to your own views/experiences)
If I believed for a second this is how life would be... well it would just be bad.

MrBlackCat

[Kathy]

Mblackwell, on 02 January 2015 - 12:21 PM, said:

But then real shit happens like you get sick, or laid off, in accidents, you have kids, your sex life tanks due to said kids, money is on short hand, the appliances break, your work schedule conflicts with family time, doubts and fears creep in due to general "lack of excitement" (due to increased familiarity, not actually any differences), relatives die and you need to take sudden cross country trips, etc.

Yeah, fuck that shit.

[Mblackwell]

All of those are actual things that have happened (or are happening) to me and other people I know.

The same kinds of things can happen to individuals not in relationships too, so in a way it's actually easier because at least you have someone else to help bear the burdens. But every challenge is a stress on a relationship and can cause conflicts to arise.

So don't assume it gets easier.

[Robman]

Considering all we do is age, taking a nap is about the only thing that gets easier.

[LeoD]

Robman, on 02 January 2015 - 02:09 PM, said:

Considering all we do is age, taking a nap is about the only thing that gets easier.

As far as my mum is concerned it's the other way round. So you can't even be sure about that...

[MrBlackCat]

Mblackwell, on 02 January 2015 - 01:47 PM, said:

All of those are actual things that have happened (or are happening) to me and other people I know.

The same kinds of things can happen to individuals not in relationships too, so in a way it's actually easier because at least you have someone else to help bear the burdens. But every challenge is a stress on a relationship and can cause conflicts to arise.

So don't assume it gets easier.

I guess I am lucky then... the only relational stress I feel has to do with her directly, none of the outside stresses as you described have done much of anything but strengthen our relationship over the last 10 years or so.
When I hear stuff like that, it just sounds like people are with the wrong person... sure it took me 14 tries to find this right person, but at least they got better with each person.
It is my opinion that if outside stresses cause relational issues, it is most likely there are issues that exist already, below the surface, and the outside stresses are just lowering a tolerance. I don't tolerate anyone I am in a relationship with, which might be the difference. I never "settled" either also. I have a lot of instant, relational "deal breakers" that have prevented being in wrong relationships I think.

Note that I am typing of relationships with the intention of staying together for always, or as long as possible anyway. I accept that some people enter into relationships knowing they are not likely very permanent, and that is a different animal, in my opinion.

I guess what I am saying is that relationships to me are ABOUT support in all the above outside-stress conditions... and if that were not the case, then that IS a relational "Deal-Breaker" for myself. Always has been.

I would be interested in hearing anyone elses view on this...

MrBlackCat

[Mblackwell]

For example: If money is tight you might have conflicts about budget or priorities. If no one is having sex (for months) it tends to cause emotional strain and a lapse in feelings bonding. If children are causing stress it can lower tolerances for things that otherwise might not bother you. Women especially tend to ignore their own needs when children enter the picture to the detriment of themselves and their husband and eventually even their children. No relationship is perfect and over time those imperfections tend to stay the same. The question you ask yourself is, "does being with this person measurably improve my life?" The improvement is arbitrary and not related to money or whatever, but rather that the person brings something to the table to either balances or improves/intensifies (in a positive way) aspects of your life.

[Ronin]

MrBlackCat, on 02 January 2015 - 05:34 PM, said:

I guess I am lucky then... the only relational stress I feel has to do with her directly, none of the outside stresses as you described have done much of anything but strengthen our relationship over the last 10 years or so.
When I hear stuff like that, it just sounds like people are with the wrong person... sure it took me 14 tries to find this right person, but at least they got better with each person.
It is my opinion that if outside stresses cause relational issues, it is most likely there are issues that exist already, below the surface, and the outside stresses are just lowering a tolerance. I don't tolerate anyone I am in a relationship with, which might be the difference. I never "settled" either also. I have a lot of instant, relational "deal breakers" that have prevented being in wrong relationships I think.

Note that I am typing of relationships with the intention of staying together for always, or as long as possible anyway. I accept that some people enter into relationships knowing they are not likely very permanent, and that is a different animal, in my opinion.

I guess what I am saying is that relationships to me are ABOUT support in all the above outside-stress conditions... and if that were not the case, then that IS a relational "Deal-Breaker" for myself. Always has been.

I would be interested in hearing anyone elses view on this...

MrBlackCat

I have been with the same girl 12 years (got engaged last year) all I know is that she is a better person than me and most, (she's a pretty hot primary school teacher and on her holidays she goes to orphanages in places like Belarus just to show some poor kids attention/affection for a week or two) and the world is a better place for her being in it and I am strong enough to protect her from most, that is another side of love that never goes away. I don't do such selfless acts but I can protect her so she can keep doing these kind acts.

I'd say I got lucky but I believe we make our own luck. I was on a highway to hell before I met her, why do people like that go for people like this?

We fight about money/family/work problems and other stupid shit that comes along the way, then forget about it/reason/realise it's all bullshit and move on.

I'm drunk and not sure to the point I'm trying to make.

[Micky C]

Mblackwell, on 02 January 2015 - 01:47 PM, said:

So don't assume it gets easier.

Yeah, that relationship ended around the time she wanted us to rent a place together. I suppose if you continue that curve I described before it'd start to rise back up again after a while, with the sweet spot in the middle.

Damn I wish I knew the name of that curve

[Ronin]

Micky C, on 02 January 2015 - 07:25 PM, said:

Yeah, that relationship ended around the time she wanted us to rent a place together. I suppose if you continue that curve I described before it'd start to rise back up again after a while, with the sweet spot in the middle.

Damn I wish I knew the name of that curve

Are you talking about Schrödinger probability curve? If you are, then that's just being picky. Your perfect girl will be there when you see her ?

[Robman]

ease in-out ? Bell curve?

Relationships can be summed up simply like this: Shit happens, deal with it.

[Ronin]

That's life in general you're talking about.

You're born in the swamp, now claw your way out, try not to break a nail.

[High Treason]

Everyone seems to be talking about relationships lately. I gave up on that a long time ago.

[Ronin]

High Treason, on 02 January 2015 - 08:14 PM, said:

Everyone seems to be talking about relationships lately. I gave up on that a long time ago.

You would you deny the world that massive IQ of yours?

Think of the children!!

[Zaxtor]

C/2014 Q2 (Lovejoy) at perihelion
https://in-the-sky.o...20150130_17_100

[Lunick]